Even Women Need Wives

It is a woman’s nature to nurture, to put others’ needs before our own.  We juggle part- or full-time jobs, kids, cooking, a spouse, other family members, the list goes on.  And sometimes, just sometimes, we manage to take time for ourselves to read, go to the gym, or grab a glass of wine with a girlfriend.  The volume and stress of it all is overwhelming.  Do we ask for help?  Oftentimes the answer is “no.”  But when we do, there is a sigh of relief.

In a recent conversation with a prospective client, one woman expressed to me the time-constrained stresses of her professional job, attending to her husband and daughter’s needs, and also caring for her mother undergoing cancer treatment.  “I need a wife,” she told me.  “I hate grocery shopping and need someone to help cook healthy meals for my family and my mother because I just can’t do it all.”  Chances are, you have felt this way more than once in your life.

It is okay to ask for help.  It is also okay to spend your hard-earned money on people who can help you, whatever the need.  Ask yourself, “What is the value of my time?  What tasks do I not enjoy doing or don’t have time to do?”  Whether you need a housecleaner, someone to return a dress to the store, or someone to ensure you have a healthy meal waiting at the end of a long work day, I encourage you to seek people who thrive on providing these services.  You’ll be glad you did and wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.  Give yourself permission to be nurtured by a “wife” who will help you find more peace in your life.